How Should Christians Handle Difficult Relationships?

In this special rebroadcast episode of The Branch Podcast, Pastors Chris, Matthew, and Anthony revisit one of the most pressing and relatable topics: How Christians Should Handle Difficult Relationships. Whether it’s navigating tension with a friend, deciding whether to maintain a connection with a toxic family member, or learning how to confront someone in a God-honoring way, this conversation is packed with biblical wisdom, practical advice, and grace-filled encouragement.

One of the most common questions Christians ask is: “Am I required to stay in relationship with everyone?” The short, honest answer is no. While Scripture calls us to love others, that love doesn’t always mean maintaining close or constant connection.

Jesus modeled this beautifully. He had many followers, yet strategically chose 12 disciples and within that group, an even closer circle of three. His example shows us that it’s wise and even necessary to prioritize relationships based on calling, trust, and spiritual growth.

Scripture also teaches us to be friendly, kind, and open-hearted. However, this doesn't translate into being emotionally entangled with everyone we meet. Christians are not commanded to have deep relationships with everyone, but we are called to reflect Christ in how we treat others.

One of the biggest misconceptions in Christian circles is equating forgiveness with reconciliation. Forgiveness is always required, we are to release bitterness and entrust others to God. However, reconciliation requires mutual repentance and effort, which isn't always possible or safe.

The pastors emphasized that while we should strive for peace and reconciliation when possible, we are not obligated to stay in relationships where trust has been broken repeatedly or where emotional or spiritual harm is occurring. In some cases, stepping back is the most loving and godly decision you can make.

Setting healthy boundaries doesn’t mean withholding love; it means acknowledging your limitations and honoring God with your emotional and spiritual health.

Confrontation is often misunderstood as aggressive or unkind. But biblical confrontation is redemptive. It seeks healing, clarity, and restoration. The podcast outlines several practical steps for approaching conflict:

• Check your heart: Make sure you’re not acting out of anger or self-righteousness.
• Be clear on what needs to be addressed: Is this a sin issue or a personal preference?
• Prepare thoughtfully: Whether you’re writing notes or rehearsing your points, don’t wing it.
• Lead with humility: Own your part of the issue, even if it’s small.
• Schedule the conversation: Avoid surprising or ambushing someone. Give them space to prepare.
• Use gracious language: Say “This is how I felt” rather than “You always do this.”

Ultimately, confrontation done in love brings clarity and offers the opportunity for real growth, for both parties.

Scripture describes the church as the household of God. We are spiritual family, brothers and sisters in Christ. This spiritual kinship should elevate the value we place on our relationships within the church.

Jesus taught that those who do the will of God are his true family (Mark 3:35). Paul echoed this by urging believers to care for one another, bear each other’s burdens, and pursue unity. When conflict arises within the church, it's essential to pursue reconciliation, not just for our own sake, but as a witness to the power of the gospel.

Walking in unity despite our differences demonstrates the transforming work of Jesus and showcases His love to a watching world.

There are situations where, even after efforts at reconciliation, the relationship continues to be damaging or unfruitful. In these cases, it's biblically acceptable, and often wise, to step away.

The pastors encouraged listeners to reflect on whether they've made sincere efforts to reconcile and set healthy boundaries. If the other person remains unwilling to change or continues to harm the relationship, ending it may be necessary.

This decision should come after prayer, wise counsel, and a desire to honor God, not from anger or avoidance.

Handling difficult relationships as a Christian requires a balance of grace and truth. We are called to love deeply, forgive often, confront wisely, and prioritize our spiritual health. Not every relationship will last, but every interaction is an opportunity to reflect the heart of Christ.

Whether you’re navigating a strained friendship, a toxic family dynamic, or hurt within the church, let Scripture be your guide and the Holy Spirit your comfort.